Why Do We Hurt The
Ones We Love?
“The truth is,
everyone is going to hurt you. You just got to find the ones worth suffering
for.”
The people we know
and love the most are the same people we're most awful to in word and deed. The
closer you get to someone's internal organs and soul, the easier it is to slip
up and cut sh*t open inside the people who let you in. They let you in without
telling you what would hurt them the most.
In relationships, we
hear about couples that feel emotionally wounded by each other on a regular
basis, through what one says or does. They both love each other very much, and
want to stay together, yet they keep hurting each other taking each other for
granted, betraying emotional trust, or bringing up the most vulnerable topics
from their partner’s past.
Possible reasons to
why we hurt the ones we love:
(1)
We may lack the
knowledge and skills of how to communicate our feelings constructively with our
partners- many people may realize how they hurt their partners, and feel like
they want to change that behaviour, but simply not know how to change or how to
communicate what they are feeling.
(2)
We feel
misunderstood. We wish they could make a journey inside our head and see things
the way we see them, just because we think it is the right way. We simply can’t
understand why they think differently and how they can miss something that
seems so simple and obvious to us.
We misunderstand them
because we’re not always willing to try to understand them.
Why do we hurt the ones we love?
It’s just a thing of
life I believe, we all have to deal with. We all sin and upset God… we pray and
ask for forgiveness and hope to change our ways, in return he accepts with open
arms. We sin again… and the cycle repeats itself.
Summing up all of
that, its hard not to hurt the ones we love, we don’t necessarily do it on
purpose. We are two different separate people; things we do and say are bound
to upset your other half… even if it’s a joke! We just have to study and know
what things may hurt them for future reference, its trial and error we aren’t
no psychic!
